Last night I had dinner with my lovely friend, Christine. It was so nice to catch up on everything and just talk. We are in constant communication through social media and texting, but it's nice to see each other too.
She has so many incredible things happening for her right now. She bought a house! On her own. By herself. With no help from a man, family, or otherwise. I am so proud of her! She gets the keys in a matter of days and I can't wait to help her paint and move in. She deserves this after how hard she's worked for this. As long as I've known her, she's always talked about buying a house as soon as she could. It's finally time!
As we talked about our lives and caught each other up on mutual friends, I realized how much I value my friendships. I have some great friends in my life and they are constantly pushing me in the right direction. They are all going places in life and inspiring me to dream even bigger than I already am. Those are some irreplaceable friends right there.
My wonderful mother raised my sisters and me to be strong women. She was a strong woman from pretty much when her life started and she has always instilled that in us. We have never been able to hide behind a man or excuses the rest of the world has given us. Not once have we been permitted to throw it all away for love - rather, she's showed us how to find a love that will let you keep your independence as you grow together. It's about being independent minded while being able to depend on a spouse in certain areas. What an incredible virtue to be passed down. I will be passing this down to my daughters too.
I say all of this because last night I realized that my girl friends are all strong too. Over the past years, I have had friends come and go. And the ones that have remained are strong. That isn't a coincidence. I want to be surrounded by strength and independence. I like having friends that move across the world, buy a house, start careers, and even find true love without the help of a man.
These girls would never let anyone walk all over them. These girls wouldn't put up with mistreatment from their partners. These girls aren't afraid to make big plans and enjoy it when their significant other happens to "fit" into that plan without compromise. These girls aren't going out every night/weekend to find someone to keep them warm - instead, they use their free time to save lives, better the world, continue their education, and more. These girls keep me in that frame of mind too.
I love my girl friends. A year ago, I thought I was losing some of the closest friends I could ever have. But now I know that is not the case. It was God's way of showing me the true friends I need to be surrounded by. He was cleaning house to get rid of the drama, the dependence, the lack of motivation, and more. I need encouragement, reinforcement, no drama, and real strong women. I have all of that in my friends.
Let's hear it for the girl!
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